“You must be so proud of her”
On 3rd June 2015, at 9.42am, our daughter went into theatre. After operation number nine or ten (we’ve lost count) it doesn’t get any easier. It was when the nurse said, “You must be so proud of her” that I felt the tears well up behind my eyes.
By 9.54am I was sitting in the hospital cafe with my husband, both of us discussing a mix of emotions that has bubbled away over the last 17 years of hospital visits, consultations and prognoses. Can you believe that we were given the option to terminate our daughter? I don’t say that to be critical of the medics, or to give a political or religious perspective on the pro-life debate. Rather, it’s a reflection that in my darkest moment, not knowing if our girl would have any other major deformities, particularly in her brain, there was a split second when we wondered: should we take the choice we’d been offered of letting her go?
10.35am and we were waiting to meet our daughter in recovery. In the quiet, I reflected on what has been our strength over our complex journey as a family. I can sum it up in one word – thankfulness. Our faith in God has given us strength to be thankful in the everyday, mundane, challenging and boring, especially when we have been at the end of our natural resources. This is incredibly practical and real. As Father God has given us the daily strength to look for the positive, and to cultivate a culture and expectation of thankfulness, this has been our collected wisdom.
1 Thess. 5:18 says, “Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.”
Author – Linda Ward.